“You have ADD Inattentive Type.”

Those five words strung together came as both a welcome relief and a scary realization. It gave me the answers to all the “why’s” I had been asking.

Why has time been slipping away?

Why was remembering important details so difficult?

Why was I making simple mistakes?

The ADD diagnosis explained my impatience and aversion to being rushed. But most importantly, it armed me with information.

I had started seeing Dr. Parker a few years earlier because I felt like a rug had been jerked out from under me. Since taking my dream job, I had felt overwhelmed, insecure and scared. Nothing about my work situation was making sense to me . . . my fear or my behavior.

In my discussions with Dr. Parker, I learned that my entire life had been about trying to “do the right thing”, which is a very admirable trait by all accounts, but what now hit me between the eyes was a new concept being revealed; I had a choice to “do the right thing for me.” This flash of insight was one of the first that allowed me to accept myself for who I really was, ADD and all.

I hadn’t realized until the diagnosis, that I was very good at fitting in and being well-liked. I was great at compromise, but somewhere I had crossed a line and I was now “hustling” to fit in.

The good news was that I was no longer willing to “do the hustle” anymore. I left the “dream job” that no longer served me and I don’t hustle for approval from anyone except myself.

am authentic and I have accepted my diagnosis, not as a disorder, but as the opportunity it really is! I know my strengths and I leverage them to highlight who I really am and what I’m all about.

About DeShawn’s Career Before Coaching

I worked in the field of public education for over 30 years – as a classroom teacher for over 25 and a building administrator for five, both in elementary and secondary school settings.

I have been married to my husband, Mike, for 15 years. We have a 12-year-old son, Riley, and of course a family dog, Leah.

I am active in my local church and my community, and provide services to local ADHD students, at the elementary, junior high, high school and college levels. I love to share my knowledge and experiences about ADD/ADHD and how to live with it successfully.

I love to read books that inspire me to be the best person I can be every day. Inspiration plays a big part in my daily life and I enjoy the works of Brene Brown, Joyce Meyers, Joseph Prince, Joel Osteen, Tony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Oprah, and others who look for their life’s calling.


Attention Talk Video with Jeff Copper


ADHD Rewired with Eric Tivers, Episode 40

Guest Posts

The Fortuitous Housewife – Therapist or ADHD Coach – What’s the difference? What do I need?

The Fortuitous Housewife – How I Got My Neighbor to Clean Out My Fridge

Speaking Engagements



Education & Training

Bachelor of Science (B.S.); Early Childhood Education, Purdue University, West Lafayette, Ind.

Master of Education (M. Ed); Indiana Wesleyan University. Marion, Ind.

Cognitive Coaching techniques from the information of Robert Garmstrom & Arthur Costas

Certified Teacher Mentor

JTS Coaching & Training

Erickson College International

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